Friday, December 5, 2008

The Aftermath

You'd never guess by looking at her smiling face chomping on a slice of Salami that an hour before she had been screaming like I'd never heard her scream before. This morning Min woke up crying that her head hurt and we gave her a dose of Ibuprofin. She has a little bit of bleeding coming through the bandage that is a little disconcerting, but I know that it will stop in the next day or so.

After the girls were sleeping yesterday, I cleaned up the mess in the bathroom. It really wasn't as bad as my memory made it out to be, but it was bad enough.

Right now, the kids are at the YMCA kidcare and Jorg is exercising. Me? I'm not writing in my blog and watching the Simpson's in the background, don't think I am. I'm making Pizza for Pizza friday. Actually, I made the Pizza's about and hour and a half ago and they were waiting in the oven for the kids to go to the Y and I just started baking them. Oh yeah...a few minutes of no one else in the house...just a few...

Tomorrow we have breakfast with Santa and go to a classic car show. Horay!!

Thursday, December 4, 2008

Slightly Damaged.

Both of my daughters are at nap right now, and I'm finally able to reflect on what happened this morning.

We were literally 2 minutes from walking out the door for the girls "preschool". It's a Parks and Rec. program that meets 2 times a week for 2 1/2 hours, just enough time for me to grocery shop and catch a few minutes by myself. I had just finished combing and styling Min's hair and she wanted to see how it looked. She took off running from my room to her bathroom, just around the corner. As she got ready to turn the corner, her foot slipped and all I heard was a bang and a cry. I got up to see what was the damage, hoping for the best. She was face down on the floor crying and I could see the blood dripping.

I carried her the few steps into the bathroom where she could bleed on a surface that was easily cleaned and grabbed a wad of toilet tissue to wipe the blood, all while calling to Laina to get me a towel from the linen closet. Laina brought me a towel and after a few wipes, I could see that we weren't going to make it into Tiny Tots today.

I called my husband, but he didn't answer his cell. I called my girlfriend from MOMS club and she said that she'd drive over to pick up Laina and keep her while I took Min to urgent care. So, 45 minutes after initial impact, Min and I ended up in an examination room at the urgent care center.

Min had a gash on her forehead about 2 CM long and it was too deep for using the adhesive stuff, she'd have to be stitched. I helped to hold her hands while the doctor injected the lidocane and started stitching her up.

Min actually fell asleep on the table. The doctor and the nurse let me keep her there, sleeping while I went to go buy some children's Advil and fill a prescription for a short term antibiotic. She slept for about 20 minutes after the procedure was over, I actually had to wake her up.

Now, she has a bandage on her head that we have to leave on for a week. I'll get some mederma for scars so that she won't have a big scar on her forehead.

I had stitches 4 times as a kid. One of the times was because I ran into the wall, just like Min did. We'll have matching scars.

Wednesday, December 3, 2008

About Min

It's easy to write about Laina. Everyone comments on how smart Laina is, how clever, how funny, how crazy. She's like commenting on how big the ocean is, or how tall the empire state building is. She's so out there that it's impossible to ignore her. She refuses to let people ignore her. I haven't written about Min too much, since it's so easy to write about Laina. That's not fair, is it? Let me tell you about Min.

Most people don't really know about Min. She gets the shadows of the spotlight that fall on Laina. Min is very smart, she figures things out very quickly, but she's also even tempered and sometimes, although she figures out that things work one way or another, she'll do things in her own time and in her own way. She's even tempered and it takes so much for her to lose her temper, which is good, considering her hair trigger sister. Min is sensitive and doesn't like people to be sad or mad. She also wants her own way and will pout and cry if she doesn't get it. Don't we all, though. She's a little girl who has been alive not quite 4 years and has already been through so much. When you stop and think what this little one has been through in four years, it's staggering. She was abandoned by the woman who gave birth to her. She was brought into institutional care where she lived for a couple of months. She was brought into a family that fostered her, a loving home, but a little less than stable. Her foster sister was adopted a couple of months before she was, a loss for her that she cried about when we met her. In her mind, Laina has been merged with the memory of her foster sister, Zi Qin. I asked Min who Zi Qin was and she said, "it's Laina". She won't process until she's older, that Zi Qin is now called Zoe and lives with a family somewhere in Florida. Min has left her home city which she still remembers and has taken this town as her home. She has accepted me and Jorg as her parents. When you ask her about China, she says very matter of factly that she was living in China waiting for us to come get her.
When we met her, Min didn't do many things. She didn't take off her clothes by herself. She couldn't get dressed by herself. She didn't walk very far. She didn't sleep by herself. She didn't swing, slide or jump. Taking a shower or a bath was terrifying for her. She can do all of those things now, plus many other things. She's learned English so quickly. She's retaining her Manderin with much effort, but we're trying to keep it up.
She's silly and likes to dance and sing. She bites when she's mad. She can be naughty and sabatoges Laina sometimes. She's sweet and funny. She likes to draw and paint. She's afraid of dogs and bears. She hated the beach and now she loves the beach. She can swing on the swings all by herself. She likes to shop. She likes to play in the yard with the water hose and also dig dirt in the garden.
She isn't the force of nature power house that her sister is. Min is more of a sweet and beautiful breeze. She's soft and easy to be with. She can sometimes cause a squall, but for the most part, she's so pleasant to be around. Sweet and beautiful Min, we're so happy you're with us!